Connection Lab

Ask so a person can succeed

14 min

Intention

Replace hints and heat with a request that has a time, a behavior, and a why.

The skill

Unclear asks create trials. Coaching uses a simple shape: when X happens, I need Y, because Z. You can be warm and specific. Specific is respectful. The other person gets a chance to be competent.

Practice now

Write the conversation you keep postponing. Draft one clean request in the X–Y–Z shape. Remove mind-reading and history lectures. Practice it out loud once.

Reflection

What did you have to subtract to make the ask doable?

Micro-habit: This week, make one request that includes a time.

From 0–10, how clear is the next conversation you need?

5 / 10